Ok. Time for a status update on my text message moratorium….. I officially made it one whole week without sending a single text. Granted, I received quite a few but I chose other alternatives for response. The past week has taught me a lot, but most importantly – I believe that text messaging and facebooking have a certain purpose in life. What they mean from this point forward in my life will be redefined based on the past week of my life.
First: my confession of how I broke. So a friend of mine is in town for the weekend. We agreed to meet at a bar in Olympia that I’m not familiar with. I arrive and look through the restaurant and don’t see him. I waited a few minutes outside of the restaurant and decided to call him.**** The phone rang twice and went to voicemail. He totally rejected my call. So I wait for a few minutes more, and gave in. Text: ‘Where are you? I’m outside.’ Turns out the part of the restaurant that I thought was the bar – isn’t so! The bar is through the alleyway in the back. Who knew? And thus began my downward spiral…… I’ve sent two additional text messages today since the fall from grace.
So like I said – text messaging has it’s purpose. I’ve found that it is grossly overused in our society. And I’ve really began to define for me what are appropriate situations in which to use text messaging, and which situations should utilize a more connected approach to communication.
My new rules for text messaging:
- Text messaging is a great tool to tell someone that you’re running late for a meeting, or that you’re on your way, to set up a meeting/date/coffee, or to inquire where someone is that you’re in the process of meeting up with.
- Text messaging is fabulous for sending a quick message to someone that you’re thinking of them.
- Text messaging is not good for the development or maintenance of any type of relationship. If you think about it – anyone can text message. I can text message someone that I don’t particularly care for and have the same affect as if I were texting someone that is close to my heart.
- Text messaging is a poor tool for an argument. Comments are limited by the amount of characters, and can be very misunderstood.
So – what now? I’m giving up on my final week. I’m not typically what I would refer to as a ‘quitter’ but I think I’ve learned my lesson here and I’m ready to move forward. I’m grateful to have the ability to explore my beliefs and also that I have a fluid view of my belief system. I hope that my experience with this test has inspired some of you to also assess your communication techniques and connectedness with others in your life. Thank you to everyone who played along with me and chose to call instead of text me – just because my experiment is over, doesn’t mean that you have to stop calling!!!!
Also, I feel that this experiment has brought me closer to several people in my life, as well as my concept and designs for my Versus show. So make sure NOT to miss the show! It’s going to be kick.ass! There are only 175 tickets available, so even though it’s two months away – you DON’T want to be caught without a ticket. You can purchase tickets here: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/123415
*** Side note – Living in Olympia is such a unique experience! While waiting on the street last night I was able to observe a street kid walking a cat on a leash. He had to stop in front of me as the cats neck handkerchief was crooked, and he had to adjust it. I was also fortunate to see numerous males walking by me wearing shorts with socks pulled up half past their calves. It’s really just such an interesting place, and really makes me smile at the crazy visions I am able to encounter. Such inspiration….. or at least entertainment!