Achieve Your Goals

The self-help industry is HUGE and growing by the day. Despite it's $10 billion per year revenue, there are still millions of people who are failing to live fulfilling lives on their terms. Did you know that 95% of people procrastinate on their goals? 

Let's be honest. If you are truly serious about achieving the goals you talk about - buying another book, reading another article, or listening to another podcast is not going to get you there. 

The thing about the self-help industry is that it is not really designed to help you achieve your goals. It is designed to make you think that you're missing something, or that you are broken in some way, or that your past actions and mis-steps somehow dictate your future. That way - you buy their next book. Am I right?

My view? Screw that. 

I like to think of self-help books as ignition starters. They will give you the inspiration to get started. But after that, it's up to you to implement what you've learned. 

So, let's talk about what you don't need in your life to achieve your goals. You don't need to become an expert by gathering more information. You don't need more time. You don't need to learn a new system or technique. You don't need to attend another seminar or webinar (Unless, of course, these things are designed to help you actually get started from exactly where you are AND supporting you through the process of achieving your goals.).

You just need to get started from exactly where you are. Because if you are truly serious about achieving your goals - you will start regardless of your perceived setbacks or limitations.

There will never be a perfect time. There will never be perfect circumstances. You will never have saved "enough" money. For me it boils down to this: either you're serious about going after your dreams or you're not. While time, money, and circumstances may look like real reasons to stay where you are - they are just excuses. You get to choose if you allow them to stop you.

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I'm Not Obsessed.

Earlier this summer I sat in on Hilary Rushford's Instagram with Intention course. Since that day, nearly eight weeks ago, one could say that I've become a little..... "focused"on my Instagram feed. Ok, let's face it. I'm borderline obsessed. 

Prior to this time, social media had become a chore. I was doing it simply because I felt I had to. I had lost my passion for what can be a highly creative outlet. The past two months I have fallen back in love with the platform. Not only for the ability to post and interact, but also for inspiration and joy. I wanted to share my top six favorite accounts with you, in hopes that you find inspiration in them as well. Enjoy!

I love this account for two reasons:

It’s GORGEOUS! It’s no secret that aqua is one of my power colors. I’m even wearing it as I type this. And EVERY photo in their feed features aqua.

The mission for this organization is phenomenal. They are dedicated to opening up conversations on eating disorders and body image. Their recently launched #IAmPerfectMovement is raising money to create the largest platform in the world to empower both women and men suffering from eating disorders and body image issues.

I’m going to try to restrain my crazy cat lady-ness for this one…. but no promises. This cat stole my heart the second I saw her. She is the epitome of thriving despite your circumstances. No front legs? No problem - her life is full of love and adventure. Watch one of the videos - your heart will melt.

I met Courtnee several months ago and was blown away at her podcast. She is dedicated to telling the stories of how creatives got their start. But it’s not just any podcast - she combines the interview with photographs to tell the stories fully. This instagram account gives behind the scenes glimpses (and advice!) to the lives of creatives in a fresh way. Oh, and did I mention the interactive Q&A that you can do with each creative? Yeah. Go follow them.

This account speaks to all things feminine and fun. I peruse this account for straight up visual stimulation. The colors, textures, and richness satisfies my cravings for beauty. BONUS: She is also a huge proponent for self-love, and we can never have too much of that #AmIRight?

Conscious Lifestyle Magazine is a full service magazine that hits on your health, mind, body, and spirit. Their articles are not only inspiring, but also have tactical ways to improve your life. Their feed, along with the accompanying descriptions, feeds my soul with so much goodness. 

Maybe it’s just because my mind is focused (and excited!) on moving into a new place….. but I am obsessed with all things home dec lately. Jessica’s Instagram provides the kind of inspiration that everyone needs to make their home look and feel magical - but in their own, unique way. The combinations of spatial arrangement, textures, shapes, light, patterns, etc. all leave me wanting more!

And who could forget my last two favorite Instagram accounts….


I admittedly have a problem with Instagram, that I am transferring to everyone I meet! I reimagined my feed about two months ago and since then - I cannot put it down. I have found a balance of providing great and inspiring content with a feed that resembles an art gallery. Here’s a sneak peek, but be sure to hop over to the account to see what I mean!

I’ve also spent this summer redoing the Inspirational Woman Project account. The account is not only featuring more powerful quotes from famous women, but also never-before-read quotes from OUR inspirational women! We’re currently working through the interviews from Volume 1, but soon we’ll start releasing content from Volume 2….. so be sure to follow for early glimpses of the new book.

Why Is Childfree Living Still Taboo?

One short year ago I wrote the most vulnerable blog of my life wherein I shared with the world my decision to be chidfree - permanently. Up until that time I had been very selective about who I told (my grandparents didn't even know of my decision until the blog was published). But within one week of submitting my article, I was on national television talking about my decision to be sterilized at the age of 29.

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Four Tips to Improve Your Dating Life

From your personal life to your professional life, it's important to be unforgettable. While it's common to focus on verbal communication, an even more powerful and effective tool is to understand what you're communicating through your body language. While doing a little introspection and research I learned that non-verbal communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. Utilizing the power of fragrance, touch and body language can make all the difference when landing your dream job, speaking in front of a crowd, or securing a second date.

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Take a Minute and BRAG a Little!!!

We have such a difficult time bragging. We're taught that it's selfish, and inappropriate, and egocentric, etc. Every connotation with bragging is negative, am I right?

What if I told you that it's actually incredibly healthy to brag? 

Last week on a group call with my business coach, she actually made us brag. Like - no holds barred, full-on BRAGGING about how amazing we all are. That call changed my life.

I will fully admit that there is a place for being humble, but only if we also recognize that there is a place for bragging as well. I just feel like we all spent too much time being humble, and that the actual split should be 15/85 (humble/bragging). 

Because what are our accomplishments if we can't celebrate them?

This afternoon, I hosted an online hangout where six of us spent 20 minutes gushing about how amazing we are and how amazing our lives are. From engagements, to new relationships, to graduating college, to moving across the country, to being grateful every day - we celebrated ALL OF IT! Not only is it powerful to recognize these things within ourselves..... but verbalizing it and having witnesses takes it to an entirely different level.

My intern looked at me after it ended and said, "Even though you made me be on that call.... Thank you. It feels so good to recognize and be acknowledged for my accomplishments."

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And if you don't have anyone to talk to at this exact moment, share your brag in the comments below so that I (and all the other readers) can witness and celebrate your amazing, courageous, and remarkable life!

No, I Do Not Want to Hang Out With You

This week I was contacted on Facebook by a complete stranger, "I'm pretty sure we should probably hangout one of these days if you're up for it." My response was clear and succinct, "I don't 'hangout' with strangers." For those of you wondering, I was not reading into the message. I followed up with a message asking if this was his attempt to ask me on a date and he confirmed that it was.

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Lessons in Being An Entrepreneur From a 10-year-old CEO

When I was 10-years-old, my focus was getting good grades, playing dress up with my friends, and my new role as a big sister. And while I believe that I have embodied my entrepreneurial spirit since a very young age, it never occurred to me to actually launch a scalable business at that age. But that is exactly what 10-year-old Abi Smithson is doing.

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Imagine a time.....

This amazes me and saddens me at the same time.Imagine living in a time where your utterly exceptional talents were...

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Growing Pains

Why is it that when I think of reaching out to ask for support from my network my mind is filled with "what if they think I'm using/abusing our relationship?" or "what if I come off as too sales-ey and they say no?" My logical mind knows that the people in my network support me - and most of you have reached out to tell me as much! But my heart always seems to forget this when my inner naysayer jumps up with all of her "what if"s.

I'm facing some major growing pains today. Like the ugly-crying-and-blowing-my-nose-like-a-trumpet kind of growing pains while my cats circle me with thoughts of "WTF is going on with her?" and "Just make her stop." 

Because let's be honest - while I've 'committed' to my new path, I've still very much found a way to play it safe and not have to put myself out there. I mean, I've kinda told some people about it..... I've created a Facebook page (which I haven't advertised)...... I've changed my job title on all my social media...... But I haven't actually taken the bull by the horns and declared my new vision to the world. Which does two things:

1. It protects me from rejection. Yay! I can just kinda put my intentions a few places on the internet and hope that someone who needs my services see it - while also sheltering me from any negative feedback or criticism. 

This is the common reason that we don't fully embrace our dreams, right? But we also fail to recognize the second reaction to this behavior.....

2. It prohibits me from success. Because, to quote my mantra from last year, if you don't ask the answer is always no. By holding back, I'm not actually embracing my potential and achieving my definition of success.

When I launched The Inspirational Woman Project kickstarter last year, I had no hesitations. I knew it was going to be successful. Someone asked me what the plan was if it wasn't fully funded, and the thought had not even occurred to me. How can I take that fearless (and maybe naive) approach and apply it to my current actions? How can I view my new services like I viewed the project and just embody the success of it without focusing on my doubts and hesitations? How can I turn my head off and dive heart-first into this new role?

It's funny that this is what I inspire women to do all the time. And I inspire them to JUST LIVE their dreams. And to take actions. And to love on their resistance while moving through it. I guess this is what makes me an expert in what I do, because I'm not just saying it to inspire others - I'm living it everyday with them. 

I think what frustrates me about giving into my resistance more than anything is that I AM A BOLD ACTION TAKER! I don't sit around waiting for life to come to me - I do what it takes to make quantum leaps in my life despite any anticipated failures. So why am I allowing this discomfort to hold me back?

I was smart enough to reach out for help to move through this. Two very important people reminded me of my presence and my power to say to myself, "I love you, but I'm doing this anyway."

What I realized was that it really boils down to was acceptance. Because inspiring women isn't just what I choose to do, it's WHO I AM. It's interesting how this simple reframe allowed me to embrace myself and my place in the world to such an extent that my excuses no longer matter.

This is how it feels and this is what it looks like when you open your heart to follow your passion for serving the world..... Here's to boldly asking for what you want today and everyday. And embodying your passions as more than just 'what you do' but instead who you are in the world. 

I'm off to go reach out for some support and declare my vision to the world.......