Why Affirmations Don't Work {Yet I Use Them Everyday}

You're standing in front of a mirror and reciting statements that you wished were true about yourself. But your mind just cannot let go of the fact that you're saying a lie. No matter how many times you recite the same affirmation, it's immediately followed by your internal voice saying, "Lies. Lies. Lies. All of it lies."

Affirmations in and of themselves do not work. 

In order for affirmations to work, it requires a change in the chemicals of your brain. It requires that you create new neural pathways, and then continually reinforce these new connections to actually embed new beliefs into your life.

Whoa. I just got all sorts of scientific, right?

Think of it this way, if you've walked the same path everyday for your life.... it's pretty well worn, right? You could walk it with your eyes closed. Backwards.

Then one day you look to your left and see this shiny gold 'Emerald City-esque' panorama just on the other side of a large patch of thorny brush. But in order to get to the shiny gold buildings, you have to forge a new path.

It might require that you use brush cutters. And that you put on gloves. And you may break a nail {gasp}. But during the process, you never remove your eyes from the panorama. You keep your focus and stay set on the vision of the shiny gold buildings - never doubting that you will reach them with consistent + persistent action in the direction towards the skyline.

Your hands may be bloody. Your manicure may be ruined. But all you can see is yourself immersed in that oasis on the horizon. You can feel the warmth of the beautiful golden glow on your skin. You can hear the sounds of the people around you and visualize the perspective from the city.

Little by little you make this new path. And one day you are standing at the gate to the beautiful golden city. You cross the threshold to be one with your vision.

That is what it looks like to successfully use affirmations. It isn't just talking about the city in front of the mirror. It's about feeling, smelling, touching, and intimately knowing what it's like to BE in the city.

And it's about living from that place every single day.

So, here are my top three tips about how to make affirmations work for you:

1. You MUST believe it. If you're going to be countering every positive statement with a negative one, just save yourself the time and don't do them at all. As described above, it's about more than words. It's about believing and feeling that what you are saying is truth.

2. Focus on the SAME affirmation for a minimum of a month. They say that it takes 21-days to form a habit. I like to make sure that the habit has stuck and add a few additional days onto the end. Also, if you miss a day..... it's better to be safe than sorry - so be sure to start from the top again.

3. Incorporate movement into your affirmation practice. I love to feel into my affirmations either during my yoga practice to deeply root it into my being. OR I will throw myself a dance party and repeat the affirmation during the entire thing. I like to think of it as shaking up all the atoms in my body to be in alignment with the affirmation I'm working on.

Comment below to tell me your experience with affirmations + what affirmation you're going to start using TODAY!