Habits in the New Year
Building new habits and breaking old ones is literally the least sexy thing ever.
And it’s concurrently the most powerful thing ever.
Unfortunately, more often than not, the unsexiness of it trumps the power of it and the majority of us fail to create the habits we desire (especially in the new year). Why is that?
Habit building is a marathon, not a sprint. I remember when I had to go on a diet for a medical condition. All I could focus on was getting through that three months so I could go back to who I was before. I ended up making it through, then immediately returned to my old habits, retriggered my medical condition and went back to exactly who I was before.
That was two years ago. Since that time, I’ve had to adopt this diet as a lifestyle. Eating in this manner is now simply who I am. In order for my body to heal from the medical condition, I had to become an entirely new person. I have had to transform into the kind of person whose health was a priority - I had to make this change my way of life, not just a temporary fix.
Viewing this transformation as a lifestyle, rather than a quick fix is what changed everything.
Approaching habit building from what we don’t want vs. what we want. When you seek to build a habit in order to remove a negative from your life (rather than seeking to build a habit to create a positive in your life), you end up creating more of what you don’t want and fail to create what you ultimately desire. Remember: what you focus on grows.
So….. If you’re focusing on building habits for weight loss, the focus of that intention is still your weight (yes, even if you add the word ‘loss’ to it!) and hypothetically disliking your body or figure. Instead of focusing on removing your weight, consider focusing on creating health, falling in love with you and feeling great in your body.
Here are my top 3 tips for building habits that stick:
Tap into your deeper why and reasoning behind building the habit. Find something bigger than yourself as the motivation to keep you going on the days when it’s a struggle.
Use your future perspective to create the habit, not your current perspective. From your current perspective, you’ll be focused on the pain that the habit is creating in your life. From your future perspective, you’ll shift your focus to the pleasure this change has brought to your life.
Commit to routines + create devoted time for your habit. If you don’t make space for + prioritize your habit, your habit won’t make space for or prioritize you. Your habit must become a non-negotiable that you commit to showing up for even on the hard days. Especially on the hard days.
Here are some great questions to explore for yourself:
What habit are you excited to create in your life? Why do you want it? What does it feel like to be the person who lives this everyday? What are you willing to do about it?
Happy habit building!
Love + Leaps,