You are Only ONE Person.
Humans have this funny idea that it’s possible to live each area of our life in different ways. As if we can be one person at work, and a different person at home, and a different person in our business or personal relationships. Except it doesn’t work like that.
I can’t even tell you how many women say to me on a regular basis, “I can’t be myself at work. It’s like I have to turn part of me off.” or “I have to turn off my emotions so that I can be effective in business.” or “I can’t be a mom in the boardroom.”
When I worked my day job for eight years, I tried to do this. I had these different ‘Bri’ personas that I would take on depending on who I was at that point in time. I had ‘Work Bri’ and ‘Business Bri’ and ‘Personal Life Bri’ and ‘Friend Bri’ and I would bounce between these personas. Kinda like this......
Let me tell you a secret - it was exhausting and it didn’t work. Want to know why?
Because I’m only ONE person.
You are only ONE person - one whole person experiencing life in the present moment. Turning off parts and pieces of yourself will only create negative consequences. It is imperative to show up fully and completely in every aspect and in every moment of your life (this is especially important for women because of how our brains work!).
A client asked me not long ago, "How are you inspirational ALL the time? There are days when I just don't want to be inspirational. But I have to be for my employees"
My response to her was - I'm not! On the days when I don't feel inspirational, I honor those feelings and be present with them wherever I am.
There is nothing MORE inspirational than being present in your
entirety, regardless of what that looks like.
So if you're feeling down or un-inspirational, what if you could just let your employees know? What if you could be honest with them and ask for some space for the day? Isn't that infinitely more powerful than faking a smile or happy mood?
Since I have begun to be present as ‘All of Bri’ in every situation, I’ve noticed a few things:
- I’m happier.
- My body feels less stressed.
- I am able to stand in my power and communicate my needs clearly.
- My energy levels are more consistent.
- I feel more intensely.
- I have built deeper connections and relationships in my life.
- Life is WAY more fun!
I invite you to consider…… Do you feel as if you’re turning parts of yourself off in certain situations? And if so, what would happen if you were to show up as a whole person in every area of your life? What would it look like if you could embrace every aspect of yourself in every moment?
Share with me in the comments ideas of how you could integrate, even just 10% more, into ONE version of you!